Ep 2. Prioritising Yourself: The Radical Act of Self-Love

February 27, 2025

In this episode of She Who Rises, Beki Eakins talks about the importance of putting yourself first. Many women feel guilty about prioritising themselves, but real self-love isn’t just about bubble baths - it’s about making yourself a priority in daily life.

Women are often busy caring for others, whether as mothers, partners, or at work, leaving little time or energy for themselves. Beki shares why self-love isn’t selfish, how to set boundaries, and why dating yourself can help you reconnect with who you truly are.

If you feel exhausted, stretched too thin, or like you've lost yourself while looking after everyone else, this episode is for you.

Who is Beki Eakins?

Beki is a home educating mother, a business owner and lover of a freedom lifestyle. Having created a life in the wilds of North Wales, she loves nothing more than being present in nature. Beki is the founder of the Feminine Rise Collective. With extensive experience in life and business coaching, transformational leadership, and feminine embodiment practices, she helps women reclaim their voices, embrace their authentic selves, and step into their full power

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Key Topics

[00:00] - Introduction: Why women struggle to put themselves first
[00:01] - The difference between self-care and real self-love
[00:03] - Why so many women feel constantly tired and drained
[00:06] - Motherhood, relationships, and forgetting your own needs
[00:09] - How dating yourself can help you feel special again
[00:12] - Setting boundaries and learning to say no
[00:14] - Why rest is productive, not lazy
[00:16] - How loving yourself can change future generations

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About the podcast
She Who Rises Podcast, a soul-stirring podcast hosted by Beki, dedicated to women who are ready to find their inner wild and embrace their authentic selves. Through heart-led conversations, somatic and breathwork insights, and raw, unfiltered stories of women throughout the ages, we explore the challenges of self-discovery. Perfect for any woman wanting to find their voice, let go of old paradigms and step out in total confidence.

Episode Transcript

[00:00:00] – Introduction
Welcome to She Who Rises, the podcast for women who refuse to stay small. Here, we dive deep into the messy, the magical, and sometimes the maddening journey of rising into your full power.

This is where soul meets strategy, where energy meets action, and where you are reminded every single week that you are stronger than you know, wiser than you think, and more powerful than you have ever been told.

[00:00:35] – The Struggle of Prioritising Yourself
Welcome back to She Who Rises, the podcast for women ready to reclaim their voices and their power.

Today, we’re talking about something that feels uncomfortable for many women—putting ourselves first. I call this radical self-love.

I’m not talking about bubble baths and face masks. I mean real, unapologetic self-prioritisation—choosing yourself instead of everyone else. For so many of us, that feels impossible.

[00:01:30] – Why Women Put Themselves Last
We often put others first—our children, partners, family, or jobs. Maybe it’s motherhood, a marriage, or a caring role, but somewhere along the way, we lose ourselves.

We get so used to making sure everyone else is OK that we forget how to take care of ourselves. And that’s what I want to talk about today—why self-love is not a luxury, but a necessity.

[00:02:15] – Self-Love is the Foundation of Everything
Self-love is the foundation for a strong, healthy life. Without it, we burn out, lose our joy, and forget who we are.

I love the idea of dating yourself—because let’s be real… if you were in a relationship with yourself, would you still be together? Or would you have broken up by now because of how poorly you treat yourself?

[00:03:00] – The Reality of Exhaustion
Most women I know are chronically exhausted. They are always giving, fixing, and showing up for everyone—except themselves.

At home, they manage everything—schedules, food shopping, school runs, dentist appointments, emotional support, making the home beautiful.

At work, they’re trying to be the best, handling stress, managing people, smoothing things over.

In relationships, people drain their energy, come to them for emotional support, and never refill their cup.

And let’s be honest—motherhood is beautiful, but it’s also one of the quickest ways to lose yourself completely.

[00:06:00] – Losing Yourself in Motherhood
I loved being a mum. I home-educated my children, I spent all my time with them.

But at some point, I lost myself. I didn’t know what I wanted. I was always rushing, pleasing everyone else, making sure they were happy.

When was the last time you did something just because you wanted to? Do you even remember what it feels like to have energy that belongs only to you?

[00:09:00] – How Do You Treat Yourself?
When you finally get time for yourself, do you actually enjoy it? Or do you just scroll on your phone, binge Netflix, or clean the house because you feel like you should be productive?

Somewhere along the line, we became everyone else’s anchor—but where are we?

Self-love isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about choosing yourself, setting boundaries, and realising that you matter too.

[00:10:00] – What We Can Learn from History
Even Florence Nightingale—known for putting everyone else first—prioritised her own well-being.

She understood that if she was exhausted, she couldn’t lead.

But modern women? We burn ourselves to the ground—trying to be good mothers, partners, employees, carers.

We treat self-care like a reward—something we allow ourselves after we’ve done everything else.

[00:12:00] – The Power of Dating Yourself
I started dating myself after my divorce. I didn’t want to date anyone else—I just wanted to feel good on my own.

So, I planned 8 weeks of solo dates—nice restaurants, fresh flowers, doing things that made me happy. And you know what? It felt amazing.

[00:13:00] – If You Were in a Relationship with Yourself…
If you were in a relationship with yourself, what would it look like?

Would it be loving, kind, and supportive?
Or would it be toxic, critical, and neglectful?

If you treated a partner the way you treat yourself, would they stay? Probably not.

So let’s flip it—what if you actually started dating yourself?

[00:15:00] – Taking Up Space Without Guilt
You don’t need to shrink yourself. Stretch out, take up space, own your presence.

Say no without guilt. Your time is precious, and you don’t have to spend it with people who drain you.

Rest is productive. It makes you stronger, faster, and more energised—but only if you let go of the guilt that comes with it.

[00:17:00] – Teaching the Next Generation
When we show our children, grandchildren, and younger women that we are exhausted, depleted, and always putting others first, we teach them that this is normal.

But when we prioritise ourselves, we show them a new way to live—one where women are strong, energised, and fulfilled.

Self-love isn’t selfish. When one woman rises, we all rise.

[00:18:00] – Final Message: Take Up Space & Rise
My hope for this podcast is to inspire you to trust yourself.

Within every woman lies a deep, untamed wisdom—an inner voice that whispers:

You are powerful.
You deserve rest.
You are allowed to take up space.

So take a breath. Make some noise. Take up space.

Let’s rise. Wild. Strong. Unstoppable.

Ep 2. Prioritising Yourself: The Radical Act of Self-Love

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